Don't know how to get a woman out on a date with you? It can be stressful, but with these four golden rules, you'll instantly see an increase in the amount of your dates. But before you run out and start asking women on dates, have something low-key, fun and interesting to get her out with you. Trust me, it’s easier than saying “Do you want to go out to dinner?” and if you use that line you’re just asking for rejection. But there’s more to the equation for asking a girl out on a date successfully. Let's get into the first rule.
Rule 1: Have Options
It’s better for you to have more options available to you than just this ONE woman. If you get her number and decide you’d like to go on a date, go out and get another girls phone number. It helps you not be so “needy”, so you don’t obsess over this one girl. Even if you only like the one, it’ll still help you relax knowing that there’s another woman out there that wants you.
When are you MOST likely to get a woman’s phone number? When are you most likely to be in a great mood that actually ATTRACTS women? In the moments after you’ve already gotten another woman’s phone number. So take advantage of your great vibe!
Rule 2: Don’t Pressure Yourself
You should be dialing the phone expecting it to NOT work out with this girl. That sounds WEIRD doesn’t it? Most women will not be good “potential partners” for you. I’m not saying that all women are “screwed up”, what I am saying is that you should realize why you’re freaking out. It’s because your mind is running wild, thinking she’s your soul mate. Think about how rare it is if you actually meet a girl that you are 100% compatible with.
If you have this in mind as you ask her out, then you totally get rid of the “I need you badly” vibe that you’re probably putting out. Women can see this neediness a mile away and so this is definitely a crucial step. It may not come easy but keep working at it.
Rule 3: Invite Her
Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what you’re doing, and then tell her she can come along. You don’t know her, so why spend $50 on a girl you probably won’t like. You should realize that when you say, “I’d love for you to come to dinner with me Friday night” is interpreted by a girl as “I don’t think I’m good enough, so I will buy my way into your heart.”
A girl will totally see through this, and group you in with all the other guys that “bribe” her. What’s your alternative when you ask a girl out on a date? Tell her that you’re going to be doing something and that she should join you.
“I’m going to go down to Starbucks and get that new tea. You should meet me down there. I can’t promise anything but a nice cup of tea.”
If she refuses just interrupt and say, “Another time then”. I also like “You know, never mind. I guess you don’t like fun times…”
Rule 4: You’ll Get Better
I always got VERY nervous before asking a woman out on a date. Now that I understand the dynamics of what’s going on, I get MUCH better results. In fact, I hardly ever get “nervous”, and I rarely if EVER have a woman “flake out” on me. All it took was practice.
You should read this article before you ask a girl out on a date for the next 10 women you meet. Although, this is just scratching the surface of the skills you’ll need if you want to have CONSISTENT success with the most DESIRABLE women, but it’s a start.
